Women: Adolescence

This is the second part of the series Women. In this section I would like to discuss the early years of a girl’s life. Everyone has different experiences in their lives, some good, some ok and some… well let’s just say they mess you up. There are very few lucky girls who are gifted with parents who love and adore her, educate her and ultimately make all her dreams come true. That’s not the case for everyone though. There are some things which we might not remember or don’t want to remember because it hurts to do so. What I don’t understand is that even though everyone’s life is different some factors or incidents remain the same (which I am sure you will agree) but our parents or we as parents fail to protect the innocence of the child from these tragedies. Let’s see what these factors are and how they might affect us (again it’s my perspective; I am open to other opinions):

• Molestation: it is very common that children these days are molested irrespective of their gender. In every family there is going to be a perv uncle or aunt who thinks its ok to touch children inappropriately. Often these people can also be your friends or neighbors or just about anyone. In today’s era (very pathetic I might add) even parents can be the one playing the role of a molester. Parents are so busy trying to make ends meet these days that they forget the one person for whom they began to do it. In all this mess the child ends up lonely and lost and being inappropriately touched by random strangers or people they know. What parents fail to realize is that this is an event which cannot be undone. It’s impossible for the child to forget it or let go of it and these painful memories hurt them for however long they live (Not to mention the messed up life part). I know parents can’t protect their child all the time or look after them every second of the day but there are ways to make sure this tragedy doesn't happen by simple things like, not trusting every other person, educate your child and let them know what kind of touching is inappropriate so they can protest and inform you if any tried any such thing, if you child is too young make sure either parent is always with the child (if not possible leave them with a recognized play group where they monitor all activities with a camera), talk to your children and let them know they are safe with you and that they can talk about their feelings without being judged, and most importantly never blame the child for the things that might happen to them (very common in dumb people who think everything is their child’s fault). They are your responsibility and if you can’t handle that responsibility for fuck sake use protection and don’t make the mistake of having kids. It is very important that you educate you child regarding all these things and giving them a chance to protect themselves when you can’t. If the child is not even aware that they are being molested then how can you protect them? At times these freaks of nature get bold and can even attempt rape which is why it’s very important that you know what is going on in your child’s life and that your child knows what is right and what is wrong. 





• Addictions: it has become very common everywhere for young kids / teenagers to have various addictions. You name it… they are doing it all, irrespective or unaware of the consequences and not even realizing that a small mistake can cause them a life time of misery. Let’s see a few of these addictions:

1. Drugs: very common and very deadly. I do not understand the need to be high… I mean … what the hell.. Why would u want to be high (you’re not a fucking bird). What is the output, I simply cannot understand. Being a teenager what trouble are you going through that you don’t want to be in your senses, can someone please explain this to me???? What problem could a teenager possibly have, you like someone who doesn't like you/or someone you can’t have? (Find someone else, there are lots of fishes in the sea) your failing? (It wouldn't have happened if you fucking studied in the first place now would it?) You don’t have friends? ( sometimes it’s just better not to have them because these days all they do is stab you in the back, get you drugged like you already are getting and leave you at the mercy of strangers or simply use you). Everyone has problems but it doesn't mean that its ok for you to take drugs and assume that everything is going to be ok and trust me it’s not going to be ok unless you do something about it yourself. Drugs won’t take your pain away; it will just numb you so you won’t feel anything which isn't worth it.
2. Drinking and smoking: again I do not understand the need to drink or smoke. (Wake up people; it’s not going to fix anything). Have you ever heard anyone saying “I had a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of vodka and all my problems were literally gone”? Drinking and smoking only create more problems. It’s easier for people to drug you at a bar and take advantage of the situation while you are drunk (obviously because you are not in your senses and unable to protect yourself). I personally feel the need to be aware of my surroundings at all times. At times you might have to deal with ugly situations but there are good things that happen too so why won’t you want to be awake and aware of that situation and feel it, enjoy it and remember it. Most of the time people do shitty things when they are drunk and the worst part is they either don’t remember or just pretend not to as it was too bad in the first place. Then why drink, why put yourself in that position, why the need to hurt yourself and the people who love you and why give strangers or otherwise a chance to take advantage of your drunken state. I cannot pressurize on this point enough that people will take advantage of your drunken state and your will regret it. So isn’t it better not to drink?
3. Sex: it’s not just teenagers who are addicted to sex, it’s everyone. And it’s not a bad thing if you both are in love and truly care for each other. Then why did I count it as a problem …. It’s because people have started taking it for granted. Having sex when they are bored and have nothing else to do or just doing it for the sake of doing it. It has become meaningless and vulgar instead of being something beautiful. All I ask is that you wait till the right person comes along, it might be that everything is not perfect but at the very least you will not regret it and hate yourself for the rest of your life for doing it (personal experience… so trust me on this). It’s a famous saying here in India “the fruit of patience is the sweetest” ( not sure if I’m saying it right but it basically means that if you wait and are patient to eat the fruit it will taste sweeter) it can be hard but you need to try, that is the least you can do, right? I think I speak for all women when I say that sex for us is not just something we do and get over with, it’s an experience a feeling that we feel in our whole body and it’s magical. Then why waste it on any random person. Think of it as money, would you just give money to a random stranger and that too for their enjoyment while your left high and dry? Think about it, save it and spend wisely ;).

• Daddy issues or Mommy issues: in most female teens it’s very common to have daddy issues (it’s an issue to have a dad and also not to, men are such an issue) but very rarely there are teens with mommy issues too. This can majorly be understood from my first section of the series: Birth. In brief most fathers want sons, there are many reasons behind this want; leaving a legacy, family name, and less worry as compared to having a daughter. So they start harassing the female child by making them feel insufficient or less important in some cases by having to high expectations and putting too much pressure on them also by not caring enough or caring too much i.e. being over possessive (why do men always have to do that!). These issues affect the child’s life in many ways and at times require help from a therapist. If only parents would realize this before having kids life would be so much easier. Coming back to reality we can see that this is a huge problem and we can take care of it by have proper communication with children and not pressurizing or forcing them to do things. Parents need to realize that in today’s world it really doesn't matter if you have a boy or a girl, both are a handful! (Say no to having Kids :P). In a very similar way some moms can be particularly strict or insensitive to the needs of a female child irrespective of being a woman herself. At times like this always empathize with your child and think how you would have felt if your parents treated you that way. 

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• TV Show: Skins

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Women : The Birth

It has been a long time since I wrote a post. I can say I have been busy, but you already know that. Sometimes I didn’t know what to write about as I was so out of touch with things. But things are changing, and they are changing fast. Can’t say if they have gone from bad to worse or more like hell. But it did get me thinking about many things that are around us, many ways people think and how these affect us as women. To get further into the matter I have decided to start writing a series on woman which will discuss each stage of their life and how the changing world is affecting it. What I write is merely my observation and thinking, it can be debated against (which I am up for :P). These series will discuss women in general mostly but I will add additional points highlighting the women in the LBT (Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) community.

I would choose to be girl every time

In the first post of the series I would like to discuss the birth of a woman (I know we aren’t born women… I just mean it in general sense). In India our beloved country (yes I am being sarcastic ;)) we have seen in the past few decades and before that, being born a girl is a crime (literally!!). Your parents don’t want you, because they were expecting a boy who would carry on the name of their family, your grandparents (paternal… obviously) hate you and blame your mom for giving birth to a girl and blah blah blah, you’re not allowed to have dreams and ambitions coz girls are born just to get married become a maid (slave) and have more babies (Can you believe this shit!) and finally you grow up to be a disappointment to your family (specially our father’s …most of the time). A lot of all I just said has changed but the basic mentality still remains the same and from time to time we are forced to realize it.

Let’s see each point one at a time and compare it to today: 

I am born SMART!

·         Parents want a boy – still true in most small towns and even big cities. I do not understand this concept. How the hell does a boy carry on the family name? If you just mean the surname… then ya I guess it a little accurate (Married girls have a choice to keep their family name too if they want so again this point can become invalid), but otherwise there is nothing that would carry on the family name. If you’re thinking family genes… then I better remind you that a daughter carries the same family gene as the boy. Basically a pure breed would be possible only if brothers and sisters started getting married and having kids (Grosssss….ewww ewww) otherwise in a “normal marriage” (being sarcastic again :P) two people from different families (here family means father mother and kids… no uncles and aunts) get married, so now we have 2 different gene pools getting mixed (don’t have any graphic images in mind….. dirty people!) then there is no question of family genes… right? So I conclude that boys really don’t carry on the family name not even in the bro-sis wedding scenario as the girl is doing the same thing. They don’t just want a boy; they make it their goal to have one. They keep trying until they have a baby who is not a girl. During this process they either end up have many girls for whom they don’t care or forcing their wives to have abortions. (It’s the 21^st century people, haven’t you heard of contraception! And why the hell is to so necessary to have kids anyways, no one need more people like you on this earth!)

·         Grandparents hate granddaughters – I have no idea why this is, mostly coz of the first point I guess or the points that might be discussed below. I do not understand why women are so bitchy to each other. Your grandmother is a woman herself but she looks down on you coz you are a girls… that’s just lame. Why do women have to hate each other so much? Look at men; they are united all the time for even silly things. Women always fight within themselves giving men the upper hand. Using this point men have controlled women’s mind right from the start. It just doesn’t make sense. Why are they so insecure, so jealous, and so stupid all the time? I will agree women in love make mistakes… they are allowed to, but what about the rest of us? I see this behavior even in kids. I mean.. they are just born, they haven’t even seen the world yet but they still fight among themselves, over toys or parents love or some other shit like that. The proverb “United we stand divided we fall” is pretty true, if we could just keep our differences aside and be united in front of the world, no one can bring any harm to us. In the grandmother situation, if only they stood up for their granddaughters, they would break this long chain of demoralizing act of looking down at a child just coz she’s a girl. At the same time I do not understand what their real problem is with their daughter in laws. They always seem to be trying to figure out new ways to hurt them. WTF, you have a daughter yourself, how would you feel if someone treated your daughter that way? Isn’t the answer pretty obvious? Then why so much hatred for the women who is taking care of your son and having your grand kids and being your slave. If it’s the worry that you might lose your son, then I’ve got a news flash for you ladies, why the fuck do you care, you have a husband think about him, not about your son, what kind of a sick relationship is this anyway. Why do you want you sons to love you more than they love their wives? Aren’t you getting enough love from your husband? Would you have liked it if your mother in law had done the same to you? I mean… how dumb do you have to be to not understand this. Anyways, moving on.    

·         In the past few years things have changed as far as education is concerned. Women have thrived in many fields which were earlier restricted to men. But still in small towns and in random places we see cases where things aren’t changing fast enough. Girls aren’t allowed to study enough for various idiotic reasons which I am ashamed to state as follows:

o   Why do girls have to study? Ultimately they need to be house maid to some douche bag and have his disgusting kids.

o   If girls study too much it gets in their head. (basically they mean we get a brain and we can see the injustice being done to us)

o   I don’t want a wife who is more educated than me. (egotistic assholes.. go and study more yourself, dummy)

o   Why do girls want to study, they don’t have to do a job coz we take care of them. (this basically means they are scared shitless coz they know their wives are capable enough to go out and earn more than them)

It's Time we realize!

It’s a pity, men know how strong and talented women are so they use mind games and cheap tactics to make sure women don’t realize their own potential. But I plead to all you women out there, wake up, open your eyes, and see what you are really capable of doing. Don’t let your fathers, grandfathers, husbands and sons hold you back. Be the women you always wanted to be. This might not be easy and you might have to sacrifice relationships, but was that relationship of any meaning if they don’t want you to achieve your dreams and be happy. Don’t give up on your hopes and dreams and one day you might find someone who shares the same dreams with you (hopefully a girl :p)

·         Lastly, why girls are a disappointment: this is a weird concept, hard to digest but here it goes. Imagine this scenario, you are born an ambitious girl, full of hope and dreams and unfortunately you have a brother too. Now you cannot expect your parents to treat you both equally (typical) coz according to them he is more superior just coz he has sperm (I mean hello!! Time to wake up people). Let’s see how parents can get partial and to what extent this might not be true for everyone, but it is for the most of us.

o   You will most probably get all girly toys and if you wish to play with monster truck or something macho – Disappointment. (Parents expect you to stick to the stereotype that all girls should play with dolls and shit like that coz they do not realize that some girls might like stuff which is not a proper definition of “girly” even if they aren’t gay. But who gets to decide the gender for toys? Any clues…?)

o   If you want to wear jeans and skirts – disappointment. This might have changed for a lot of people but even when you allowed wearing such clothes there are restrictions. At times it is disappointing coz girls don’t know how to carry themselves when wearing small clothes. It can look good if you carry the dress properly but very slutty if not, very thin line between the two. I think we should have the freedom to choose what we want to wear but at the same time I urge that we should be careful as to what we choose. Your outfit can define you in many ways and I personally wouldn’t want to be defined a slut, would you? Coming back to the point, parents might feel disappointed if the society does not agree to the way you dress (as if society is god!).

o   You grow up wanting to be a pilot or a construction worker (something which is generally assumed that only men are supposed to do) – disappointment. Coz it’s their assumption that you are doing or want to do something which only men do and is not acceptable by society (Ya… again society, interfering in our lives as if they own our asses. Your gonna learn that you can’t do a lot of shit just coz society doesn’t accept it, I just wanna know one thing- who the fuck is society). Somehow you might get the opportunity to fulfill your dream, if your lucky enough or your parents love you more than society (whoever the fuck that is).

o   If you don’t want to get married early and follow your dreams – huge disappointment. According to our parents and society (I’m starting to piss off now on this stupid society) the ultimate goal of a women’s life is to get married and have kids. Women do wish to have families but I don’t think it’s their ultimate goal. It’s not just a belief these people carry, its madness. They start putting or forcing this idea in the child’s mind that no matter what they do, they have to marry and have kids or their life is incomplete (are u serious people!!). I will agree that everyone wants someone in their life to share their happiness and sorrow but it cannot be the only thing they want. Some people who already have might still feel the emptiness as their true desire hasn’t been fulfilled.

o   All the above things- if your brother wants to do, he’s the hero. Some might not apply but still, you get the point.

·         People are changing and so is the world, but some things still remain the same. Like religion, it might be the same but they have started branching out. (As if we don’t have enough religions to choose from). One insane thing I’ve noticed, almost all religions hate women. No idea why but they do. Otherwise why would they have such insanely stupid rules that restrict women to do things which men are freely allowed to do? Rules that discriminate women for no reason. And as if that wasn’t enough, society is back in the picture, not sure why it exists, to make our life easier or more miserable. If you notice really carefully in most religions you will find that women are suppressed and not allowed to do anything they want to do instead are forced to do things they don’t want. Can’t we see that men have and are still using every trick in the book to control women by any means necessary? And the cherry on top is religion, if you wanna get away with something just use the name of religion and force people to believe and do it. Forget everything else, just think about it this way; if a religion is asking you to do something don’t you want to know the reason behind it and not a bullshit reason, a reason that is logically or scientifically accurate. I know I would. Should we blindly believe any religion or anyone who perches us? I say we have a universal religion based on equality, based on facts which differentiate the wrong and right in a way agreeable by all. If we all desire equality and rights we need to unite and put our minds towards achieving our goals. We can sit at home and wait for the world to change or go out there and change it ourselves.

We are United

I hope you enjoyed reading and also hope that my point of view did not offend anyone. We as women need to know what wrong is being done to us and how we are being manipulated by the people we so love and adore no matter how they feel. I just want to raise questions the answers to which might change the way you see things.

Will be back soon with the next post in the series, till then

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and women too irrespective of their sexuality :P.

Recommended movies :

• Bol - (Pakistani Movie)
• The Help
• The Color Purple 

So What !! ..... Im still a Rock Star

Who am I?? Am I a lesbian...... am I straight.... am I a Muslim... am I a Hindu.... a Christian or a Jew...... Am I white.... African - American....Asian.... Indian... Who am I?? When God decided to send me to earth and be a part of the human society why didn't he ask what I wanted. Why didn't he give me the option to choose who I want to be. Why didn't he let me pick my origin, my race, my caste, my gender? Why? Why did he make these decisions for me. Because God knows what's best for us, he knows what is right and what is wrong. Then who gave the right to humans to decide what is right and what's wrong. Which race is superior and which isn't. Which caste is right and which is wrong. Who made these people "God" to decide that being who we are is wrong and unholy. Money..??.... Power...?? do these things really give you the right to judge someone and make decisions for them. No.. they don't.... they don't give you shit!!

Only God has the power to decide what is wrong and what is right, and if God made us like this then it is not possible that being who we are is wrong. Coz God choose us to be this way, and God can't be wrong. I am a religious and God fearing person and there wasn't a day that went by in which I hadn't thought about what I was doing and if it was right or wrong. Even before I was born, God had planned my life, he had gifted me with family and friends, and choose everything for me, he planned my life and in that life he choose for me to be gay, to be a lesbian, to be a homosexual. And I accept it, I accept what God choose for me. I am not blaming God, nobody can, coz he knows what is right for us and what isn't. This is the reason why Im not going to let any human decide otherwise. Just because some people don't understand why God made us like this, we cant allow them to deny our identity or change ourselves from who we really are. Its not easy to find out who we are in the first place, and on top of that trying to seek approval from our parents, from our friends and from the society is ridiculous.

Ive spent years wondering who I am. Ever since I was a kid I felt that something was missing in my life, something was incomplete and uncertain. I tried hard to find out what it was but failed every time.  I asked God if something was wrong with me, but I never got any answers. I had friends and family who loved me, everything was great but something was missing. What was it, and why wasn't I able to find it. This continued till I was in my early twenties when I found out something bout myself which surprised me. I started realizing that I wasn't interested in men at all. I was unable to love them more than just friends. I started to think.... why? is something wrong with me..?? am I sick..?? or maybe Im just meant to be alone. But soon enough I found all the answers to my questions.... even the ones which I thought would never be answered. I started understanding the reason for my deep interest in women and why they intrigued me so much. Since I wasn't exposed much to the term homosexuality I had no clue as to why I was so attracted to women. So I started thinking and analyzing myself and my feelings. They weren't temporary attractions or infatuations which would come and go. They were feelings which were strong and deep. They were in no way related to sex or lust. They were strong emotions of love.

The instant I came to the realization that I love women and that Im homosexual, everything came to order. Everything started making sense. Being with a women made me feel complete, made me feel loved and that I belonged here. My believe in God grew stronger and stronger each day ever since. I had finally understood God's message and the reason why he sent me here...to love and be loved. It doesn't matter who you love, which cast they belong to, which gender, which society. Just Love and love more coz life is too short to be wasted on hating someone. It doesn't matter who you are, straight or gay, rich or poor, white or black...... love will find you. Once you accept that love is everything and to be loved by someone is the most amazing thing that can happen to you.... you will find heaven on earth...... Like I did.

Movies for this week:

• But I'm a Cheerleader 
• The Gymnast  
• Nina's Heavenly Delights            

The one that got away

In every person's life there is a special someone, someone who have the power  to change everything, to make everything beautiful and worthwhile. We wait all our lives for this special someone and wonder how and when we will find them. But the thing you fail to realize is that this special someone might be right in front of you and you might have not even noticed. The weirdest part is that we find this out when we loose them. Why is that we don't appreciate what we have until we loose it. Its just because we are too afraid of everything. Afraid of our feelings, our emotions, the world, people and their thinking..... but do these things even matter......... I don't think so.

Love is a beautiful feeling but we make it so complicated without any reason. There is no such thing as perfect Love. So its no use waiting for it or expecting it in your relationship. Love is pure, innocent and divine, it might have a few ups and downs but its part of deal. If you think that one day you will find a perfect girl and fall in love and live happily ever after............ that's not happening........ Its better u realize it now and wake up from this dream. The truth of the matter is that you will find someone who will change your world, who will fill your life with so much love and passion that the rest of the things wont even matter. All that will matter is that she is with you and your happy. There is no specific place or time where you will find love. So stop looking, you will find love in places you never even bothered looking. Sometimes people get so involved in their fantasy world that they don't appreciate what they have, until they loose it and then think that they had what they wanted all along, if only they knew.

So don't waste time, stop looking around, love what u have today and fall in love with it over and over again. Life is too short for anything but it doesn't mean we have to rush. Just slow down and look around you there are so many beautiful things, beautiful people.... beautiful life.... live it today as there is no tomorrow. I've seen many lesbians falling in love and out of love in a very short time. We get into relationships too soon and get out of them even sooner. Just take it slow, take your time to know the person to absorb everything and then move ahead instead of rushing it and then breaking up. Make mistakes, but learn from them too. Because there is no perfect life.... you have to make the most of what you have. Stop waiting to fall in Love..... coz it will find you no matter where you are.... and change your world forever.

Movies for this week:

• Better Than Chocolate
• Imagine Me & You
• Kissing Jessica Stein
• Loving Annabelle 
• Gray Matters

 

"Women" - Misunderstood

Hello Ladies and Gentlemen, I am back again with yet another hot topic. Before I begin it is important to know that this blog is completely dedicated to all sorts of women in the society irrespective of their sexual preferences because as women we all are one.

The matter at hand is the misrepresentation of the women in the media and the society. Since media is a powerful tool which can be used to send various messages across through various means, isn't it important to use it wisely. Today media is everywhere, we can run but we cant hide from it. A minimum of 8 hours is spent by a person on various means of media like newspaper, TV, internet etc. Thus it becomes important to make sure that what is being served through these medias is right by all means and does not misrepresent anyone or anything. But this is not something which is being observed at the moment. Today media violates every rule in every manner possible. At some points it has found to be helpful, but when money gained power over knowledge things changed.

Today in the Indian Television and Cinema we can find various examples of how women are misrepresented and misused by the media. Almost every daily soap has various kinds of women which misrepresent the actual Indian women in the society. I agree that there are different kinds of women in the society, but it doesn't mean that they all have the same identity. We cannot judge a women by just one trait. But the media doesn't seem to understand this. The amazing part is that women don't even realize how they are being controlled by media. Their minds are manipulated and their thinking restrained. Only a few women seem to understand this and are willing to fight till they get justice.

Women have been misunderstood all these years. Since the time we all came into existence. Firstly we were treated as slaves and child bearing machines, then as a measure to entertain the egos of men, as a low lives whose existence completely revolves around men. The potential of women have been underestimated long enough. Its about time we rise and fight for equality, justice and the rights that we deserve. According to men and the media we are equal but I don't feel that way. The Indian society still treats men as the superior human being leaving us to where we started from. Today is the age of women, we out number men in quantity, we out smart them and we build the nation. But the sad part is we don't realize our importance which has actually helped the media to misguide us and make us believe that without a man we are nothing.

We have excelled in every field be it politics, science, business etc. we know what we are capable of doing but we don't have the right support, we don't have the freedom. Today no matter who you are or how successful you are people will make fun of you and underestimate you, if u are a women. And it is not just men who do that, some women also participate. I am not sure what the reason is but their lack of knowledge and lack of sense of responsibility is more than enough to discourage the other women.

I would like to share a video which is a trailer of a documentary called Miss Representation.

"The documentary Miss Representation, by Jennifer Siebel Newsom, premiered at the 2011 Sundance Film Festival, and aired on OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network.
The film explores how the media’s misrepresentations of women have led to the underrepresentation of women in positions of power and influence."

This documentary is an eye opener for everyone. It gives me hope that we are not alone in this fight for justice. I understand that we have many more barriers as we are lesbians but unless we don't fight for our rights being women, how can we expect to win the fight for gay rights.

Today is a start, now is a beginning to rise and fight against all odds. Its never to late to do what you truly believe in. So lets get started with the fight for Equality.


Here are some articles and websites that might be helpful:  

• Miss Representation 
• Portrayal of Women on Television 
• Fabulously Fru Girl    

               

Evolution......... Revolution

Women.... sounds very simple, just a word which represents us but it isn't just that. Women have evolved with time and changed nations by their strong will and determination. Women..... are inspiration... for music, poems, love and every sweet thing on the planet earth. Have you ever thought, why is it that women have the ability to give birth, to bring life into this world...? Because they are strong, much more stronger than they think. Its not just the physical strength, its the will power and determination that makes us strong.

When we look back in history, we may find things which not only sound disturbing but were terrifying. Female babies being buried alive just because the family needed an heir. Girls didn't have the right to education and were restricted to household chores, were being married at an early age when they didn't even have a clue what relationships meant. They were forced to kill themselves if their husbands died, and still are being tortured and killed for dowry. But at that point we were helpless, couldn't do anything to save ourselves or speak up for our rights. No one thought it was important to take suggestions from a women and what a man decides, is always right. We didn't have the right to work or choose a career.

But things changed, and people evolved, just because we decided that we had enough bullshit and it was about time we let the world know what a women can do. When women started educating themselves, they excelled. When they worked, they made wonders. Today a women can do more than a man can never do in his whole lifetime. This is the reason why men suppressed women all these centuries, because they knew how much potential we have, and that they wouldn't stand a chance against us.

This evolution did not come in a days time, it took years and sacrifices made by several women fighting for our rights. But it isn't over yet. there are still many more rights we need to fight for. I wouldn't expect any man to understand what a lesbian has to go through, just to make a point and to fight for her rights. But I do expect this from all the women out there, coz we all are people and no matter who we are we have the right to live our lives with respect and honor. Don't misunderstand me, I'm not a man hater, I'm just tired of them bossing around and telling us what to do, when they themselves don't have a clue.

This Revolution that I start here is not just for Lesbians, its for women kind. We all stand together in this fight for equality, but at the same time expect that Lesbians will also be treated as humans and be given rights that we all deserve as humans.


The Movies that I recommend are not necessarily Gay but they represent women empowerment, so please do check them out:

• Mulan
• Hannah Free
• If These Walls Could Talk 2
• The Sea Purple
• The Secret Diaries of Miss Anne Lister 

Lesbians = Humans

I would like to ask one question to all the people who believe in religion, who believe in God, who believe in humanity, is it ok for you to just sit back and watch the LGBT community suffer? Is it ok that we kill ourselves in vain and in depression because you think that its against the religion to be gay? Can anyone justify it.

Its just sad and painful that people say things have changed, that we are civilized and have rights but at the same time these rights aren't for the LGBT community. They tell us that we have the right to live and at the same time kill us for who we are. Who gave them the right to decide what's right and whats wrong, who made them God? that they think killing, beating up and bullying lesbian and gay people is the right thing to do.

There was a time when two people from different races or religions couldn't be together, because the society wouldn't except it. Just replace the word "race" or "religion" with homosexuality, its the same story but different characters. People are scared of everything which is different from them, but this cannot be used as an excuse to discriminate anyone. We are society, we people of all religion, race & sexuality combine together to form a society. Its not a decision which can be made by an individual, we as a society make decisions. And no society can say that its wrong to love someone no matter which race they belong to or religion or gender.

Ever since gay  people started coming out, they have been tortured, bullied, beaten up and even killed. Just because we are different??... How are we different, is the color of our blood not red, don't we breathe oxygen, aren't we Humans? What is it that makes us different from any other human. NOTHING..!!!! We are Humans and we all are alike, people don't have the right to judge or discriminate us based on who we sleep with. Isn't it against humanity, that this violent behavior is justified  just because some people think that being gay is a sin. Well its about time these people open their eyes and except the reality.

If there are 2 people who say that gay-ism is a sin there will be 4 people who will embrace themselves for being gay. We are humans and we will fight for equality, we will fight for what we believe in, we will fight for freedom, and we will WIN, if not today then tomorrow.

Say NO to discrimination
Say NO to Bullying
Say NO to Homophobia

Coz we are HUMANS and we have the right to Live and Love.

Movies related to this post:

• Clapham Junction
• Equality U
• Boys Don't Cry

To Be Or Not To Be

Hello readers, today's hot topic is "To be or not to be", is it our choice?

Well, if you ask me its not, because we are born the way we are. Some people think that some events in our past and a sequence of misfortune lead us to become gay. But that's not the truth, its just an assumption, a point of view to try and justify why we are the way we are. Why is so hard to understand that its not a byproduct of some things that happened in the past, its who we are meant to be. The only thing is we found out a little late, but at least we know now. A few of my straight friends keep trying to convince me that I'm not gay. Its just a phase and blah blah blah.... but they don't seem to understand that an individual's identity is not a phase. Believe it or not, we were born this way. And I cant blame them for being scared and not understanding us, because people are scared of things they don't understand or they don't want to believe in. They will try and reason with you, call you abnormal, suggest therapy and force you to pretend. The FAQ's by straight people are

• How do you know your Gay?
• If you've never been with a man, How do you know you don't like them?
• Maybe you didn't find the right guy.... ( as if he is the one :P )
• Were you sexually harassed as a child?

All of them think we are sick or something like that and that's why they try to fix us.... Hello...!! we are not a leaking taps that you're trying to fix us, nothings wrong.... is it that hard to understand...!!
I just try and imagine how things would be, if being gay was the right thing and being straight was a crime (Almost Normal: perfect example). But I'm sure things will change with time and there will come a point were we all are happy being who we are.

Its not a matter of choice, being gay. Nobody gave us options and asked us to pick one (Gay or Straight). We cant choose who to be, but we can be proud of who we are. Many religions say that being gay is a sin, and God will punish us for it. How can this be a sin, how can loving someone be a sin, how can it be a sin to loves God's own creation? People say that our fate is in God's hand, so how is it wrong when we being women love women, when it is our fate. People believe, what they want to believe in, see what they want to see, but why cant they see that love is beyond everything..... its pure and sacred.

If someone asked me to choose between being gay or straight (which is not stupid, as we all know), I would choose to be a lesbian. I would choose women over men.... over and over again. No therapy, great guy, medication, lock down is going to stop me from loving God's greatest creation among all....... "Women".

All those lesbians out there be proud be Happy because this is what we are meant to be.

Movies for this week:

• Almost Normal : http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0466669/
• My Normal : http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1117983/
• A Marine Story : http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1447479/
• Serving in Silence: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0114395/

That's all for today ladies........

Lesbian Interest

Have you ever had the feeling that your alone even when you are surrounded by people, that you are deprived of love even when there are people that adore and love you in every way possible? A feeling of emptiness that surrounds you, wherever you go, and no matter what you do, you cant fill your life with happiness and joy. That's the feeling you get, when you don't really know who you are. This is how I felt for a long time but didn't know what it was or why it was happening to me. But one day everything changes, just like magic and things start to make sense. That was the day when I realized I was a lesbian.

For some people its so easy to just say.... hey Im gay... but Im not sure if they even realize what they are saying. These days being gay has become a fashion, a trend and if not that, then just a way to feel the adrenaline rush in their body. People like these don't realize how much pain and suffering we had to go through to be where we are today ( By we I mean the Lesbian community). On second thought, they don't even have to know,  because when the time gets tough they can get back to their "normal" being and pretend nothing happened. But for all the genuine lesbians its not that simple or easy.

Lesbians have been in existence since the age of dinosaurs ( meaning; since a very long time ), but didn't come out or didn't know what it meant when they had feelings for another women. These women had to keep it a secret all their lives, and whoever stood up or came out to the world had to suffer consequences. Until the late 60's homosexuality was illegal in almost all the countries across the globe.  It was considered a sin, abnormal behavior, taboo, obscene and all the bad things people can think of.  We didn't have any rights or anyone to support us. But eventually things started to change in the early 80's thanks to media. Through movies people started to know that we existed but weren't sure how to react to it. Even in these movies the gay community was portrayed as the villans. Even in books, if a writer had a character who was attracted to a female character in the story, she would either die in the end or would end up with a guy. This portrays the mentality of the people, who can fantasize two women together but cant imagine them staying together happily as a couple. Our community had to struggle a lot for the rights that we deserved in the first place. During these protest many lesbians were beaten up, raped and killed just for being who they are. After all this struggle, pain and suffering we got the right to be who we are, but today's generation seems to be busy sleeping around with people and pretending to be gay. Because of people like these the whole community is judged.

These words might seem harsh but the fact of the matter is that young girls don't realize what it means when they say they are gay. Living in the Indian society they might be quite aware of the narrow mindedness and conservative nature of their parents and relatives. When they know that they don't have the courage to fight the society and stand up for who they are, they shouldn't get involved with anyone. And even worse sleep around with numerous partners and then get married to a guy. The bottom line is, either fight or don't enter the battle field at all.

There are so many things that need to be done, and so many topics to be discussed, which I will in my future posts. But for today I guess this much information is enough. In every post I will recommend LGBT movies which are related to what the post has to say. I hope you enjoy these movies and let me know your thoughts on it.

Movies for today's post are

• 8 The Mormon Proposition

• Forbidden Love: The Unashamed Stories of Lesbian Lives

• Fabulous! The Story of Queer Cinema 

    

   

   

   

Burning Desire

Hi,

I would like to greet the readers of this blog, Welcome !

Normally the first post begins with introductions and stuff like that, but that's not my style. So lets get to the point... the reason why I'm writing this blog..??.. That's the point were we should begin. Its very simple, to spread awareness and gain knowledge about the Lesbian community.

In this blog you will find all sorts of information which can help you take decisions and choose your lifestyle. But its not just about that, its more fun and interactive, which means I would be expecting your participation in helping me out to make this blog a source of information.

Our area of interest would be "Lesbians" and everything related to it. Like movies, Latest updates, health, lifestyle, sex, society and anything that comes in mind. By making this blog I intend to help form a society which accepts us for who we are, which is currently not happening. By joining hands and coming together we can achieve what we want and what we deserve.... To be who we are.

Lesbians..... how do we define ourselves...??..

• A female who is attracted to another female.
• A female who has sex with another female.
• Lesbian is a term most widely used in the English language to describe sexual and romantic desire between females ( Wikipedia)
• A homosexual Women

Can you identify yourself, with any of the definitions mentioned above?
If you do, then I must say you need to do some more digging in your heart and try to understand who you really are, because just being attracted to a women sexually doesn't make you gay. Its just a burning desire in your heart to be loved by someone who can love you back and pleasure you by all means. Being Lesbian is not just about sex and attraction, its more than that. It has a deeper meaning, more than any word or phrase in the English dictionary has to offer. It is who you are...and if you can define yourself.... then I would love to hear it.

Its clear as day, that we cant define ourselves just by one factor, i.e who we have sex with or who we are attracted to. We will discuss this and much more in my next post.

Till then have fun and embrace yourselves.

Long
Live
Lesbians ;)