It has been a long time since I
wrote a post. I can say I have been busy, but you already know that. Sometimes
I didn’t know what to write about as I was so out of touch with things. But
things are changing, and they are changing fast. Can’t say if they have gone
from bad to worse or more like hell. But it did get me thinking about many
things that are around us, many ways people think and how these affect us as
women. To get further into the matter I have decided to start writing a series
on woman which will discuss each stage of their life and how the changing world
is affecting it. What I write is merely my observation and thinking, it can be
debated against (which I am up for :P). These series will discuss women in
general mostly but I will add additional points highlighting the women in the
LBT (Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender) community.
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| I would choose to be girl every time |
In the first post of the series I
would like to discuss the birth of a woman (I know we aren’t born women… I just
mean it in general sense). In India our beloved country (yes I am being
sarcastic ;)) we have seen in the past few decades and before that, being born
a girl is a crime (literally!!). Your parents don’t want you, because they were
expecting a boy who would carry on the name of their family, your grandparents
(paternal… obviously) hate you and blame your mom for giving birth to a girl
and blah blah blah, you’re not allowed to have dreams and ambitions coz girls
are born just to get married become a maid (slave) and have more babies (Can you
believe this shit!) and finally you grow up to be a disappointment to your
family (specially our father’s …most of the time). A lot of all I just said has
changed but the basic mentality still remains the same and from time to time we
are forced to realize it.
Let’s see each point one at a
time and compare it to today:
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| I am born SMART! |
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Parents want a boy – still true in most small
towns and even big cities. I do not understand this concept. How the hell does
a boy carry on the family name? If you just mean the surname… then ya I guess
it a little accurate (Married girls have a choice to keep their family name too
if they want so again this point can become invalid), but otherwise there is
nothing that would carry on the family name. If you’re thinking family genes… then
I better remind you that a daughter carries the same family gene as the boy.
Basically a pure breed would be possible only if brothers and sisters started
getting married and having kids (Grosssss….ewww ewww) otherwise in a “normal
marriage” (being sarcastic again :P) two people from different families (here
family means father mother and kids… no uncles and aunts) get married, so now
we have 2 different gene pools getting mixed (don’t have any graphic images in
mind….. dirty people!) then there is no question of family genes… right? So I
conclude that boys really don’t carry on the family name not even in the
bro-sis wedding scenario as the girl is doing the same thing. They don’t just
want a boy; they make it their goal to have one. They keep trying until they
have a baby who is not a girl. During this process they either end up have many
girls for whom they don’t care or forcing their wives to have abortions. (It’s
the 21st century people, haven’t you heard of contraception! And why
the hell is to so necessary to have kids anyways, no one need more people like
you on this earth!)
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Grandparents hate granddaughters – I have no
idea why this is, mostly coz of the first point I guess or the points that
might be discussed below. I do not understand why women are so bitchy to each
other. Your grandmother is a woman herself but she looks down on you coz you
are a girls… that’s just lame. Why do women have to hate each other so much?
Look at men; they are united all the time for even silly things. Women always fight
within themselves giving men the upper hand. Using this point men have
controlled women’s mind right from the start. It just doesn’t make sense. Why
are they so insecure, so jealous, and so stupid all the time? I will agree
women in love make mistakes… they are allowed to, but what about the rest of
us? I see this behavior even in kids. I mean.. they are just born, they haven’t
even seen the world yet but they still fight among themselves, over toys or
parents love or some other shit like that. The proverb “United we stand divided
we fall” is pretty true, if we could just keep our differences aside and be
united in front of the world, no one can bring any harm to us. In the
grandmother situation, if only they stood up for their granddaughters, they
would break this long chain of demoralizing act of looking down at a child just
coz she’s a girl. At the same time I do not understand what their real problem
is with their daughter in laws. They always seem to be trying to figure out new
ways to hurt them. WTF, you have a daughter yourself, how would you feel if
someone treated your daughter that way? Isn’t the answer pretty obvious? Then
why so much hatred for the women who is taking care of your son and having your
grand kids and being your slave. If it’s the worry that you might lose your
son, then I’ve got a news flash for you ladies, why the fuck do you care, you
have a husband think about him, not about your son, what kind of a sick
relationship is this anyway. Why do you want you sons to love you more than
they love their wives? Aren’t you getting enough love from your husband? Would
you have liked it if your mother in law had done the same to you? I mean… how
dumb do you have to be to not understand this. Anyways, moving on.
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In the past few years things have changed as far
as education is concerned. Women have thrived in many fields which were earlier
restricted to men. But still in small towns and in random places we see cases
where things aren’t changing fast enough. Girls aren’t allowed to study enough
for various idiotic reasons which I am ashamed to state as follows:
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Why do girls have to study? Ultimately they need
to be house maid to some douche bag and have his disgusting kids.
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If girls study too much it gets in their head.
(basically they mean we get a brain and we can see the injustice being done to
us)
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I don’t want a wife who is more educated than
me. (egotistic assholes.. go and study more yourself, dummy)
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Why do girls want to study, they don’t have to
do a job coz we take care of them. (this basically means they are scared
shitless coz they know their wives are capable enough to go out and earn more
than them)
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| It's Time we realize! |
It’s a pity, men know how strong and talented women
are so they use mind games and cheap tactics to make sure women don’t realize
their own potential. But I plead to all you women out there, wake up, open your
eyes, and see what you are really capable of doing. Don’t let your fathers,
grandfathers, husbands and sons hold you back. Be the women you always wanted
to be. This might not be easy and you might have to sacrifice relationships,
but was that relationship of any meaning if they don’t want you to achieve your
dreams and be happy. Don’t give up on your hopes and dreams and one day you
might find someone who shares the same dreams with you (hopefully a girl :p)
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Lastly, why girls are a disappointment: this is
a weird concept, hard to digest but here it goes. Imagine this scenario, you
are born an ambitious girl, full of hope and dreams and unfortunately you have
a brother too. Now you cannot expect your parents to treat you both equally (typical)
coz according to them he is more superior just coz he has sperm (I mean hello!!
Time to wake up people). Let’s see how parents can get partial and to what
extent this might not be true for everyone, but it is for the most of us.
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You will most probably get all girly toys and if
you wish to play with monster truck or something macho – Disappointment.
(Parents expect you to stick to the stereotype that all girls should play with
dolls and shit like that coz they do not realize that some girls might like
stuff which is not a proper definition of “girly” even if they aren’t gay. But
who gets to decide the gender for toys? Any clues…?)
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If you want to wear jeans and skirts –
disappointment. This might have changed for a lot of people but even when you
allowed wearing such clothes there are restrictions. At times it is disappointing
coz girls don’t know how to carry themselves when wearing small clothes. It can
look good if you carry the dress properly but very slutty if not, very thin
line between the two. I think we should have the freedom to choose what we want
to wear but at the same time I urge that we should be careful as to what we
choose. Your outfit can define you in many ways and I personally wouldn’t want
to be defined a slut, would you? Coming back to the point, parents might feel
disappointed if the society does not agree to the way you dress (as if society
is god!).
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You grow up wanting to be a pilot or a
construction worker (something which is generally assumed that only men are
supposed to do) – disappointment. Coz it’s their assumption that you are doing
or want to do something which only men do and is not acceptable by society (Ya…
again society, interfering in our lives as if they own our asses. Your gonna
learn that you can’t do a lot of shit just coz society doesn’t accept it, I
just wanna know one thing- who the fuck is society). Somehow you might get the
opportunity to fulfill your dream, if your lucky enough or your parents love
you more than society (whoever the fuck that is).
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If you don’t want to get married early and
follow your dreams – huge disappointment. According to our parents and society
(I’m starting to piss off now on this stupid society) the ultimate goal of a
women’s life is to get married and have kids. Women do wish to have families
but I don’t think it’s their ultimate goal. It’s not just a belief these people
carry, its madness. They start putting or forcing this idea in the child’s mind
that no matter what they do, they have to marry and have kids or their life is
incomplete (are u serious people!!). I will agree that everyone wants someone
in their life to share their happiness and sorrow but it cannot be the only
thing they want. Some people who already have might still feel the emptiness as
their true desire hasn’t been fulfilled.
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All the above things- if your brother wants to
do, he’s the hero. Some might not apply but still, you get the point.
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People are changing and so is the world, but
some things still remain the same. Like religion, it might be the same but they
have started branching out. (As if we don’t have enough religions to choose
from). One insane thing I’ve noticed, almost all religions hate women. No idea
why but they do. Otherwise why would they have such insanely stupid rules that
restrict women to do things which men are freely allowed to do? Rules that
discriminate women for no reason. And as if that wasn’t enough, society is back
in the picture, not sure why it exists, to make our life easier or more
miserable. If you notice really carefully in most religions you will find that
women are suppressed and not allowed to do anything they want to do instead are
forced to do things they don’t want. Can’t we see that men have and are still
using every trick in the book to control women by any means necessary? And the
cherry on top is religion, if you wanna get away with something just use the
name of religion and force people to believe and do it. Forget everything else,
just think about it this way; if a religion is asking you to do something don’t
you want to know the reason behind it and not a bullshit reason, a reason that
is logically or scientifically accurate. I know I would. Should we blindly
believe any religion or anyone who perches us? I say we have a universal
religion based on equality, based on facts which differentiate the wrong and
right in a way agreeable by all. If we all desire equality and rights we need
to unite and put our minds towards achieving our goals. We can sit at home and
wait for the world to change or go out there and change it ourselves.
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| We are United |
I hope you enjoyed reading and
also hope that my point of view did not offend anyone. We as women need to know
what wrong is being done to us and how we are being manipulated by the people
we so love and adore no matter how they feel. I just want to raise questions
the answers to which might change the way you see things.
Will be back soon with the next
post in the series, till then
L
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and women too irrespective of their sexuality :P.
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