Women: Chronicles of being an adult

Being an adult comes with a lot of responsibilities and expectations from our parents our loved ones and society as a whole. But how often is it that we meet these expectations, are they reasonable enough? I believe that the chain of events in a child’s life leads to his/her idea of life and how it should be. It is not clear what they have perceived from their surroundings about life until they are adults.  This perception decides the fate of society as these individuals together define the way things are perceived for future generations. It’s an infinite loop which affects our future in ways we can’t imagine.

There are many things that leave a child’s mind in chaos that makes him/her irrational and forces them to do things they are not supposed to under normal circumstances. A major part of the mind is influenced by the parents and their behavior. An abusive father or an aggressive or dominating mother can cause issues that will not be resolved unless the child undergoes years of therapy that too after they realize that there is something wrong with them. These are just at the top of the heap of reasons that destroys the life of an adult. These affected children become corrupt adults and there is no way to change it, in most cases they don’t even want to change it as they feel their way of living is alright as their parents did the same way.

I personally feel that if a person is old enough to have sex, they are old enough to understand their responsibilities towards the society and their families. Surprisingly this age; in which people are having sex, is 13. I am surprised and shocked to learn this and started thinking as to why a teenager at a tender age of 13 would want to have sex. What role is played by the female in making this decision to have sex at such an age? There are many factors that can influence this decision (from the female perspective) starting from their families. In poor families where the parents cannot afford to have more than one room and the whole family sleeps in the same room it is very difficult to hide certain things. For instance parents have sex in the same room while their kids are sleeping nearby which according to them are sleeping but we can’t be sure, can we? These activities around the children makes their little brains work in the wrong direction and their curious minds lead them to sex at an early age or in wrong circumstances. Girls with daddy issues go to any extent to punish their fathers without realizing how it may affect them personally.  They have sex with guys they think their parents may not approve, which are mostly guys who have no interest in education what so ever, no proper jobs or source of income and are aggressive (Future wife beaters to be more precise).

Adult women are more unreasonable and careless than what I had expected. They want to start having sex so early without realizing the consequences or even the fact that our ancestors fought hard to stop child marriages which are discriminating towards women and have life threatening concerns.  I cannot accept such behavior even when the event of sex was with a person they loved and really wanted it. This act still is dishonorable to all women and degrades us to mere sex freaks, no matter how in love you are. Men will do whatever they want, at this point it doesn’t matter what they do, and it is so unfortunate that I can’t even blame them for this insensitive crime committed by women.  Their lack of control and sense of shame is very disappointing. I personally believe that young women have the power to change how all women are perceived in the society, our elders worked hard to recognize women as equal partners to men and for them to treat us with respect and dignity that we truly deserved, but young women of this generation are determined to throw all that away in a decade which took centuries to build. How do I blame someone else when we ourselves have ruined our reputation and become what we despised the most, a sex object, a slave to our desires and animals?   

I know and understand that what happened in their childhood cannot be undone and those memories cannot be erased but a part of being a woman is strength, to fight the urges, to forget the past and look forward to the future, to be determined to achieve something in life and be someone you can respect yourself before others. That is what differentiates us from men, not the fact that our bodies are built differently. I used to pride on the fact that women are more evolved than men and these primitive urges and feelings cannot hold her back but I stand corrected. What we have all done as a group has changed how women are perceived again and God only knows how much time it will take to undo this.  

Like I said before, being an adult comes with responsibilities not just towards your families but towards society too. They way women think and behave has changed in negative ways and is destroying our image which took years to build. It’s not just sex that affects this image it also involves our decision making abilities and our attitudes towards one another. One thing I simply do not understand, why do women treat each other as enemies, fight over boys/men or silly things that don’t even matter. I strongly feel that our unity can change this world and can have an immediate positive effect. But unlike men we are unable to resolve issues and be humans about things. We have to fight, plot revenge, be jealous and all the stupid things which demolishes our hopes of achievement of any kind. There is a saying (I think it’s a saying but I am not quite sure) when 2 dogs fight the monkey will take advantage, women being the dog in this scenario and men being the monkey (Literally!!). We have fought within ourselves and basically gifted control to men who never fail to take advantage of it.  Maybe we do not have to agree on everything but fighting is no way to handle the situation. Come to think of it, even if you do wanna fight like to cats (not very pleasant I might add) it’s your choice, but for the love of God do not let men around you realize this so they can take advantage of you and the situation.  

I do not want to point out only the negative things because I know there are still many good things that women do that make them respectable and honorable. But the matter of the fact is that I am disappointed and do not wish to be disappointed more, it is easier for me to concentrate on a negative factor and work on it rather than expecting good things and being disappointed by getting the exact opposite. I truly believe that women are capable of so much more than just being normal; nothing about being a woman is ordinary, its special and a privilege. And the sooner all women realize this sooner we get recognized for the true potential that we have and the power that we hold.