Women: Woman!

What does being a woman (lady, girl, female… whichever you prefer) mean to you? How would you describe yourself as a woman? Will you use the words strong, independent, caring, loving, nurturing, etc.? Are you being a 100% honest when you’re using such words? The reason I ask is that the value of being a woman has changed, its meaning has changed and it no longer carries the respect it truly deserved.

Today I will be exploring the darker side of being a woman and try to understand why even after all this time we are still standing at the beginning and have not moved on? Why it is that after all these years it feels like nothing has changed? The simple answer to that is: woman misused the freedom that was given to them. We have forgotten how our ancestors struggled and died so we can live freely and independently today. All we care about is our needs and how to fulfill them, irrespective of the fact how they affect others.

I do not understand why women would do this to themselves and other people around them. To understand what I mean let us shed some light on things that are going on. Women have lost their sense of shame to honor their undying desire for sex. All I hear these days is how girls are too eager to have sex and that they are willing to sleep with any random guy to fulfill their desires. And it’s not just adult women, it starts from teenagers. The moment they get boobs they start misusing them to their advantage, seducing boys to get favors from them or just to be popular in school. But really, is this how you want to be remembered…. A slut? If you have to fall to a point where you are using your body to get noticed then I suppose it’s not even worth being a woman. What do you think is the difference between you and a common prostitute? Only one… they have no other choice and are helpless, but you do. You can choose to be a decent human being and stop treating your body as an object. It’s true that people perceive you the way you perceive yourself. If you decide to wear slutty clothes and sleep around with random guys then you cannot expect men to treat you with respect and dignity because you have neither. You cannot blame the man for his behavior towards you after you gave him the reason to treat you like shit.

First of all I want to be very clear, we are not animals, god bestowed us with a brain which works and helps us choose what to do, right or wrong, and it also lets us control our urges and not give in to every desire we have like animals. If you want sex so bad use a goddamn vibrator! Most women these days feel its ok to sleep around with any men you can find as if they are extinct and it’s a once in a life time opportunity. I am not saying that all of it is wrong, people have their own kinks I get that but it shouldn’t be on the cost of someone’s feelings or life. It might be ok for a single woman to do as she pleases with a single guy as long as they are happy with whatever they are doing. I have a problem with women sleeping or fooling around with married men. I mean….. What is wrong with you people?!!. There is no shortage of single men or single women as a matter of fact. Then why is it that people who are already with someone hold more appeal than those who are available? There is no such thing as sincerity left in marriages. Either the guy is cheating most of the times or the woman or both. Then why the hell stay married in the first place, get a fucking divorce!

I do not understand straight people; they have no idea how lucky they are, they have a birth right to get married have kids and live a full life but still for some sick reason that isn’t enough. These people say that it’s wrong for gay people to get married, that it’s an abomination etc. etc. I say FUCK YOU! You people have no right to stop us (The LGBT Community) from getting married and having a life that we deserve.  You (straight) people have no sense of responsibility or sincerity towards your marriages.  You lie and cheat while being married; it’s all just a joke to you. I have come across men who cheat on their wives with teenage girls who have no idea that these men are married! Are you fucking kidding me! I refuse to believe that women are that dumb! Firstly, if teenage girls feel that boys their age are not enough or are not mature enough, I strongly recommend that you look at yourself first. I have no issues what so ever with girls dating older men, it’s the naïve part that bothers me. Of course the man is going to lie about him being married, it’s up to you to find out the truth and not sleep with him unless you’re sure he’s not lying. And if you do find out that he was lying and is a married son of a bitch leave him instantly, have some goddamn self-respect! No matter what he says, it will not change the fact that he was ready to or already cheated on his wife, if he can do that to his wife, then you are no exception (don’t be mistaken, your only a piece of ass to him). It’s so common for men to use excuses like, I was very unhappy with my wife for a long time and we never really connected… then why the hell are you still married to her! Another good one…. I really do love you and I will divorce my wife to be with you… Dump his ass immediately coz there is no guarantee that he won’t be repeating the same line to some other teenager in a few years after being with you.

Men are animals, they are pigs or dogs, or whatever you think they are, but it’s very unfortunate to say women aren’t that different in today’s era. Women are not united; they think of other women as competition. How can we expect any respect from men when we ourselves do not treat each other with the respect we deserve? We cannot blame men for disrespecting and treating us like this when obviously we literally gave them the right to do so. Would it be too much to ask if a married woman wanted other women to keep distance from her husband? Or her boyfriend? Or her girl friend? Will it be too much to ask to control the animalistic urges to have sex with any random person without knowing if they are committed or not? All I’m saying is all women (or men) are judged by the actions of every single woman. If one woman decides to become a slut she is making that decision for all of us irrespective of her reasons. All I ask for is that women respect themselves enough to not make any rash decision (which means taking orders from their sex organs) and use their brains for a change. Do the right thing and save the lives of other women, do not think of them as your competitors but as friends who would do anything for you like you would for them, treat other women with respect and stand up for them when they can’t.

I truly believe that if women treat each other properly the world could be a lot better place to live. In every relationship between women there is friction and it’s not just because of men it’s our fault too. Mother in laws want their daughter in laws to have sons…Why? Are they ashamed of being a woman? Why is it so wrong for her daughter in law to have a baby girl? If the mother in law being a woman herself will not stand up for her daughter in law then there is no point in being a woman at all. This was just an example; there are many more relations who suffer because women do not support each other like mother and daughters, classmates (remember being bullied by a cheerleader or any other popular girl because you were different or not so good looking?). I plead to all women to stop and think just for a moment, all that they have done and will do wrong if they do not change their attitudes towards their fellow women, to respect their bodies and have patience for everything, think rationally and not make any hasty decisions, do not believe everything men say….. blindly (check the facts, do a little spying), help your fellow women if they are being teased or harassed for being different and above all respect womanhood.