Rapists everywhere – Solutions nowhere

It is very sad and pathetic that in this era where we have achieved so much and have progressed in terms of technology and science, men have become as primitive as cave men. There is not a single day that goes by without a report of someone being raped. I mean what the fuck is wrong with men! Do they not have control over their smallest desires? Is it so hard to control themselves and behave like humans???

I have come to realize that men are the cause of destruction in every sense. They are the reason we have so much pain and suffering in the world. I don’t mean to say that things would be different if women were in charge, but the world would have been a better place without men. Let me share a few examples just to make my point:

·       They are animals, since they feel they can do whatever they want and won’t have to suffer any consequences.

·       Their greed and ego are the reasons for war and destruction.

·       Most deadly diseases (STDs) are spread through and originated from men. (women as compared are only carriers and sometimes responsible for smaller less deadly ones)

·       They have corrupted every religion. They perceive religion the way they want and then make women follow it irrespective of their wishes. Sometimes very smartly they convince them that it is the right path and women follow blindly.

·       They always feel superior to women. (Only 10% men throughout the world respect women or are dominated by them).

·        Marriage is either a joke to them or a life sentence.

·       Its ok if they are caught having an extra marital affair or marrying 4 women, but if a women does that, she’s a bitch. (Wake the fuck up people)

·       Most serial killers are men and they achieve sexual satisfaction from killing. I mean how fucking sick are you?? (Women  have more reasonable problems that make them kill, like rape, child molestation, daddy issues, here again men are responsible)

My list can go on, but what is the point. No one is going to do shit to fix it. I cannot believe that in a country like India, which prides for its culture and family values, it has become impossible for girls to feel safe, even in their own bloody house! In today’s world it is even hard to trust your own father with your integrity, your brothers, uncles, neighbours, everyone! Our mothers are quiet and helpless because they are afraid for the family names and of society but what kind of society is this? Why would she want to save the family name of such a fucking family who thinks its ok to just fuck anyone even if it’s their own daughters or sisters?? Where are we safe? Where do we go to protect ourselves? And don’t bloody tell me it’s the girls fault for dressing provocatively! Most rape victims are children, women in burkhas, in salwar suit and even mentally challenged. Where does it fucking end! What has the government done to prevent it? To protect us? We cannot rely on anyone to protect us, my suggestion is to take matters in our own hands.

·       Mothers are requested to attend self-defence classes with their daughters. Or ask the school to compulsorily include self-defence classes for girls in the course so they have the option to try and protect themselves. That too from a young age.

·       Educate your daughters not to be alone with their relatives no matter who they are and also about inappropriate touching, so they know it when they being inappropriately touched. Make them feel safe enough to discuss these things if they ever happen to them. As far as I know most of the female and sometimes even male children are abused by their relative or neighbours or sometimes even close family members. It’s the mother’s job to protect her child from such predators and not blame them (How the hell would it be the child’s fault?)

·       All women should be legally allowed to carry guns as a means of self-defence as mace will not always be able to protect them or the teaser when they are surrounded by a group of men.  

·       The punishment for rape should be more severe, isn’t that the whole point of punishment? To scare someone from repeating it? How is being locked up for 10-14 years with bed, food and other amenities going to scare them? Men should suffer the same pain women go through just to make them realize what it’s like!

o   Simple solution, remove their sexual organs. (Neuter them so to speak, isn’t that what we do when dogs get out of control?) Most rapist are repeat offenders, so neutering them will solve this problem)

o   As punishment the rapist should be raped in the ass by 10 men, brutally and animalistic ally. (now that’s a punishment that fits the crime)

o   The word Rapist in every language should be tattooed on their face so the world can know what they did.

o   Cops who do not take immediate action against a rape complaint should be terminated with no future job possibilities. In small towns a separate committee should be formed for such issues on which immediate actions should be taken even if the complaint is against a politician or a rich or influential person. People who obstruct justice should be severely punished so as to let them know the severity of the crime. (Like rich fathers/mothers of rapists who think they are above the law and try to influence people with money or fear, my question to them is, would they be ok if some rich guy raped their daughter and then offered them money or scared them enough not to lodge a complaint? Why would you even want to protect a son who has no respect for human life???)  

o   Prevention is always better than cure, the government should make a detailed database of sexual predators or offenders with their location and provide this information to the general public so they can protect their children and women from such animals and at the same time prevent rape from happening. But for this to happen women will have to come forward and report every molestation and inappropriate touch they have ever had to go through. I am sure you will be surprised by the quantity of such people and by their identity. These men should be tagged with electronic chips so they can be tracked at any given time.

Some people might think that what I am saying is extreme or inhumane, but isn’t what they do the same? So why shouldn’t they have a taste of their own medicine. If we really want rape crimes to reduce this is the way to go. Death penalty is not going to change anything, in this corrupt system animals like rapist easily slip away. The government needs to take extreme measures if they want to make the woman of this country feel safe.

Women: Adolescence

This is the second part of the series Women. In this section I would like to discuss the early years of a girl’s life. Everyone has different experiences in their lives, some good, some ok and some… well let’s just say they mess you up. There are very few lucky girls who are gifted with parents who love and adore her, educate her and ultimately make all her dreams come true. That’s not the case for everyone though. There are some things which we might not remember or don’t want to remember because it hurts to do so. What I don’t understand is that even though everyone’s life is different some factors or incidents remain the same (which I am sure you will agree) but our parents or we as parents fail to protect the innocence of the child from these tragedies. Let’s see what these factors are and how they might affect us (again it’s my perspective; I am open to other opinions):

• Molestation: it is very common that children these days are molested irrespective of their gender. In every family there is going to be a perv uncle or aunt who thinks its ok to touch children inappropriately. Often these people can also be your friends or neighbors or just about anyone. In today’s era (very pathetic I might add) even parents can be the one playing the role of a molester. Parents are so busy trying to make ends meet these days that they forget the one person for whom they began to do it. In all this mess the child ends up lonely and lost and being inappropriately touched by random strangers or people they know. What parents fail to realize is that this is an event which cannot be undone. It’s impossible for the child to forget it or let go of it and these painful memories hurt them for however long they live (Not to mention the messed up life part). I know parents can’t protect their child all the time or look after them every second of the day but there are ways to make sure this tragedy doesn't happen by simple things like, not trusting every other person, educate your child and let them know what kind of touching is inappropriate so they can protest and inform you if any tried any such thing, if you child is too young make sure either parent is always with the child (if not possible leave them with a recognized play group where they monitor all activities with a camera), talk to your children and let them know they are safe with you and that they can talk about their feelings without being judged, and most importantly never blame the child for the things that might happen to them (very common in dumb people who think everything is their child’s fault). They are your responsibility and if you can’t handle that responsibility for fuck sake use protection and don’t make the mistake of having kids. It is very important that you educate you child regarding all these things and giving them a chance to protect themselves when you can’t. If the child is not even aware that they are being molested then how can you protect them? At times these freaks of nature get bold and can even attempt rape which is why it’s very important that you know what is going on in your child’s life and that your child knows what is right and what is wrong. 





• Addictions: it has become very common everywhere for young kids / teenagers to have various addictions. You name it… they are doing it all, irrespective or unaware of the consequences and not even realizing that a small mistake can cause them a life time of misery. Let’s see a few of these addictions:

1. Drugs: very common and very deadly. I do not understand the need to be high… I mean … what the hell.. Why would u want to be high (you’re not a fucking bird). What is the output, I simply cannot understand. Being a teenager what trouble are you going through that you don’t want to be in your senses, can someone please explain this to me???? What problem could a teenager possibly have, you like someone who doesn't like you/or someone you can’t have? (Find someone else, there are lots of fishes in the sea) your failing? (It wouldn't have happened if you fucking studied in the first place now would it?) You don’t have friends? ( sometimes it’s just better not to have them because these days all they do is stab you in the back, get you drugged like you already are getting and leave you at the mercy of strangers or simply use you). Everyone has problems but it doesn't mean that its ok for you to take drugs and assume that everything is going to be ok and trust me it’s not going to be ok unless you do something about it yourself. Drugs won’t take your pain away; it will just numb you so you won’t feel anything which isn't worth it.
2. Drinking and smoking: again I do not understand the need to drink or smoke. (Wake up people; it’s not going to fix anything). Have you ever heard anyone saying “I had a pack of cigarettes and a bottle of vodka and all my problems were literally gone”? Drinking and smoking only create more problems. It’s easier for people to drug you at a bar and take advantage of the situation while you are drunk (obviously because you are not in your senses and unable to protect yourself). I personally feel the need to be aware of my surroundings at all times. At times you might have to deal with ugly situations but there are good things that happen too so why won’t you want to be awake and aware of that situation and feel it, enjoy it and remember it. Most of the time people do shitty things when they are drunk and the worst part is they either don’t remember or just pretend not to as it was too bad in the first place. Then why drink, why put yourself in that position, why the need to hurt yourself and the people who love you and why give strangers or otherwise a chance to take advantage of your drunken state. I cannot pressurize on this point enough that people will take advantage of your drunken state and your will regret it. So isn’t it better not to drink?
3. Sex: it’s not just teenagers who are addicted to sex, it’s everyone. And it’s not a bad thing if you both are in love and truly care for each other. Then why did I count it as a problem …. It’s because people have started taking it for granted. Having sex when they are bored and have nothing else to do or just doing it for the sake of doing it. It has become meaningless and vulgar instead of being something beautiful. All I ask is that you wait till the right person comes along, it might be that everything is not perfect but at the very least you will not regret it and hate yourself for the rest of your life for doing it (personal experience… so trust me on this). It’s a famous saying here in India “the fruit of patience is the sweetest” ( not sure if I’m saying it right but it basically means that if you wait and are patient to eat the fruit it will taste sweeter) it can be hard but you need to try, that is the least you can do, right? I think I speak for all women when I say that sex for us is not just something we do and get over with, it’s an experience a feeling that we feel in our whole body and it’s magical. Then why waste it on any random person. Think of it as money, would you just give money to a random stranger and that too for their enjoyment while your left high and dry? Think about it, save it and spend wisely ;).

• Daddy issues or Mommy issues: in most female teens it’s very common to have daddy issues (it’s an issue to have a dad and also not to, men are such an issue) but very rarely there are teens with mommy issues too. This can majorly be understood from my first section of the series: Birth. In brief most fathers want sons, there are many reasons behind this want; leaving a legacy, family name, and less worry as compared to having a daughter. So they start harassing the female child by making them feel insufficient or less important in some cases by having to high expectations and putting too much pressure on them also by not caring enough or caring too much i.e. being over possessive (why do men always have to do that!). These issues affect the child’s life in many ways and at times require help from a therapist. If only parents would realize this before having kids life would be so much easier. Coming back to reality we can see that this is a huge problem and we can take care of it by have proper communication with children and not pressurizing or forcing them to do things. Parents need to realize that in today’s world it really doesn't matter if you have a boy or a girl, both are a handful! (Say no to having Kids :P). In a very similar way some moms can be particularly strict or insensitive to the needs of a female child irrespective of being a woman herself. At times like this always empathize with your child and think how you would have felt if your parents treated you that way. 

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